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Creating Your Crazy Great Life, The Rest of The Story: Part 3 of 3

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I recently had a client tell me that if she couldn’t help others that her life would no longer be worth living.  She said she would rather die than “take up space.”  All of her value is tied directly to her doing, not her being.  My very compassionate client goes over the top to do for others and completely neglects her own wellbeing.  And after years of this, it is beginning to show.  Her health is failing, she is fatigued and she is scared that if she continues at this pace, she won’t be around much longer to care for her loved ones at all.  Ironically, she is a nurse.

But I have found OFTEN that people in care-giving roles as a profession are usually the worst offenders when it comes to neglecting their own self-care.  So all you nurses, ministers, counselors, parents, et. all, listen up!  Today we are covering the final four fundamentals for making self-care a vital practice in your life.

Fundamental #6:  Doing what is best.  Ah, if only self-care were all about mani-pedi’s and extravagant vacations.  But that couldn’t be further from the truth.  The heart of self-care is doing what is best, not what is easy.  Eating chocolate cake is easy, but eating broccoli is best for your body on a regular basis.  Staying up late can be really fun, but getting enough sleep will make you more productive and engaged the next day.  Many times it will take discipline to create more life and vitality.

You will need to find a rhythm between challenge and rest, discipline and indulgence.  I like rhythm over balance.  Life isn’t about doing equal things in equal measure all the time.  There is an ebb and flow of intensity, energy and pace from day to day.  So learning to check in with yourself (Fundamental #5) is crucial here to know what is best in any particular moment.

Fundamental #7:  Positive People.  Surround yourself with people that see the positive in life and know how to enjoy it.  Get around people that will support your efforts to care for yourself.  This may mean finding new friends or hiring a trainer, therapist or other professional.  Some of this happens naturally—as you take better care of yourself you will gravitate more toward positive influences and away from the Negative Nancy’s and Ned’s in your life.

There will always be an element of intentionality to self-care, but gradually it becomes your default mode.
Fundamental #8:  Holistic.  Caring for your body will benefit your emotions and vice versa.  You are an integrated being:  body, heart, mind and spirit.  Give attention to each area when you are scheduling time for self-care, being intentional to nourish your whole self.  And as you care for your self in one area, it will benefit you in the other areas as well.

Consider it cross-training.

Fundamental #9:  Essential.  Anybody can exist, but if you want to thrive and contribute over the long-haul—and enjoy the journey—self-care is a necessity.  When you see it as critical as breathing, and that you are worth the time and effort, taking care of yourself begins to flow more naturally. You may even begin to do it without much conscious thought.  I had a client tell me once that, after an incredibly stressful day at work, he went home to meditate, run three miles and watch a funny movie.  When I pointed out to him that he was taking good care of himself, he grinned and said, “Huh.  I didn’t realize I was doing that.”

There will always be an element of intentionality to self-care, but gradually it becomes your default mode.

Keep up the great work of practicing these fundamentals.  Next week I will be back with a BUNCH of ideas for self-care activities.  With the fundamentals in place, have fun exploring all the new possibilities available to you.

To Your Great Life!

Becky

Becky Henderson
Becky Henderson
I am a catalyst to uncover the blocks and barriers getting in your way of creating the life you desire. Together we can transform the obstacles into opportunities. I listen to what you say…and what you do not say. Similar to a mirror, I show you what you cannot see on your own right now, and tell you what is necessary to create the results you are looking for. I value who you are and where you want to go in life.
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