“Do. Or do not. There is no try,” said Yoda responding to Luke Skywalker after he said he’d try to rescue his sunken ship.
So what if there is no such thing as trying? I know how crazy it sounds, because the world, in general, refers to trying as a real thing. But notice that trying only exists in the domain of speaking. Trying is a concept that does not exist in the domain of action. Don’t believe me?
Can you actually show me someone that is trying? No. You can show me someone that is either doing what’s required or not doing what’s required to achieve a particular goal. Yes, I agree you can show me someone that is in action. But that activity can only ever be action that will accomplish the goal or action that will not accomplish the goal. There really is no in-between. Always. Every time.
So what is trying? Trying is just our way to convince ourselves that we are doing when actually we are not doing. We trick ourselves into feeling good with our poor results. “Well at least I tried,” becomes our mantra of mediocrity. Trying gets in the way of us being who we need to be to do what’s required to get the results we’re after. It leaves us in the land of not doing and not recognizing it as such. And THAT’S what keeps us stuck.
Doing what’s required works. Even not doing what’s required works. It may sound strange to hear that not doing works. Here is how. Something becomes available to me when I’m able to say, without judgment, “I just didn’t do what’s required.” It is a factual statement, not a condemnation. And facts can be dealt with. There is nothing wrong with not doing; it is actually a workable place to operate from. When I own that I just didn’t do what’s required, that leaves me free to choose, at any time, another way of being that will get the job done. It keeps me in the game, it keeps me being responsible for the results I’m after.
But not doing what is required while calling it doing what’s required doesn’t work for creating what’s important to me. It is disempowering. It is a lie. It leaves me pacified with poor results and no access to being any other way because I’ve convinced myself that I’ve exhausted all my options. I tap out of the game while deluding myself that I’m still in it. This is what trying produces in my life. It keeps me comfortable while at the same time draining me of energy and strength. And I, Becky, spent many years unaware of just how comfortably drained I was being.
Where in your life are you not getting the results you say you want? Okay, you just aren’t doing what’s required. That’s it. What becomes possible for you when you own that? Feeling liberated yet? Stay with it. You will.