Tell The Haters to Shove It

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New Year’s Day, 1863, President Abraham Lincoln declared the abolishment of slavery in the United States.  Guess how long it took for that declaration to reach the African American community in Gavelston, TX?  Two and a half YEARS.  It was June 19th, 1865, when two thousand Union soldiers arrived to enforce their liberty.  Historians suspect that slave owners there were well aware of the Emancipation Proclamation, but unwilling to abide by it until forced to do so.  According to law, the African Americans in Galvelston were free men and women as of 1863, but they did not receive knowledge of that truth for another two and a half years.  So in the meantime, they continued to live as slaves because they believed themselves to still be slaves.

When it comes to your being, it is not just who you are that matters here…it is who you THINK you are.  Zig Ziglar articulately said, “You cannot consistently perform in a manner which is inconsistent with the way you see yourself.”  You can actually be free but live as though you are not…because you believe you’re not.  You will always live into what you believe about who you are.  That is all you can ever do.

“You cannot consistently perform in a manner which is inconsistent with the way you see yourself.” Zig Ziglar
When you look at yourself, who do you see?  For many of us, we see the person that we decided we were as a result of early experiences with our parents, siblings, teachers, bullies or other influences way back when.  Yes, really painful things actually happened to us.  But what we are still enslaved to is the perception WE formed about ourselves, the interpretation and meaning WE concluded about who we are and aren’t in this world as a result of those painful experiences.  What if that perception is not true?

Taking full responsibility for how you see yourself is the first step in mastering your being. I said last week that many people are attempting to live from HAVE DO BE.  And while that attempt is true, they are actually still living according to BE DO HAVE.  Huh? In the movie The Ten Commandments, Cecil B. deMille says, “It is impossible for us to break the law.  We can only break ourselves against the law.”  It’s like gravity—always in effect whether we are aware of it or not. So how we live this out, when we think we’re doing in order to be, is that we are actually living from a belief of “I AM (insert negative)”—I am sick, poor, afraid, fat, ugly, stupid, unable, damaged, too much, etc.  It also sounds like “I AM NOT (insert positive)”—I am not enough, I am not complete, I am not fulfilled, I am not beautiful, I am not valuable, I am not smart, I am not worth it, I am not strong, I am not capable, etc. Any of these sound familiar?  Many of us get really good at pretending these don’t exist, so take some time to get honest with yourself about where this is at work in your own life.

“It is impossible for us to break the law.  We can only break ourselves against the law.” Cecil B. deMille
But consciously or unconsciously, we get busy in the art of compensating; we put up a great outer appearance and try to DO enough to BE better than we believe ourselves to be.  It’s pretty exhausting, isn’t it?  When you live from lack, your doing only generates more lack. Did you know that?  No amount of doing will get you to being complete, because BEING complete is not a place to get to; it is a place to come from.  And you have the birthright, capacity and responsibility to access this for yourself!  So go ahead, and tell the haters to shove it.  Accessing and mastering who you really are is the essence of transformation; it is both glorious and terrifying…and it’s glorious that it’s terrifying.

Begin to notice where you are currently living from “not enough” or “incomplete.”  Notice how that impacts how you show up in your relationships, work, health, money or spirituality.  You don’t need to do anything with it.  Just be with it and notice it.  I’ll be back next week with more on just how complete you already are and how to really get that for yourself.

To Your Great Life!


Becky Henderson
Becky Henderson
I am a catalyst to uncover the blocks and barriers getting in your way of creating the life you desire. Together we can transform the obstacles into opportunities. I listen to what you say…and what you do not say. Similar to a mirror, I show you what you cannot see on your own right now, and tell you what is necessary to create the results you are looking for. I value who you are and where you want to go in life.
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