“I can’t afford that!” That was my knee-jerk reaction a year ago when I heard what my own coach charges for his services. And oh how many times I have declared this over my life throughout the years—I can’t afford that.
Having learned in my 20’s that financial responsibility means not purchasing things I can’t afford, my M.O. has been that if I don’t have the money then I just don’t buy it. Sure appears responsible, doesn’t it? But it’s not actually being responsible; it’s being resigned. “I can’t afford that!” is really resignation disguised as responsibility. It is resignation to the situation of not having enough money. And as long as I am resigned then I am not responsible. I am making something else responsible for how my life turns out. What am I making responsible instead of me? The situation. In this case, the situation is not having enough money.
“I can’t afford that!” is resignation disguised as responsibility.
On the surface, I am off the hook, and it’s the amount of money in my bank that is being the cause for me not hiring a coach. But let’s look deeper. Who is responsible for what is in my bank account? Me! I created that. My choices, actions and inactions. So I am actually at cause for what is/isn’t in my bank, and what is/isn’t in my bank is at the effect of my choices to date.
“Because” literally means being the cause for what is happening; it is code for responsible.
My life transformed the instant I realized I could live as the cause for creating something new financially for myself, instead of living at the effect what I had created so far. I stopped declaring, “I can’t afford that!” and started asking, “How can I create that?” And became fully responsible for hiring that coach.
My life transformed the instant I realized I could live as the cause for creating something new financially for myself, instead of living at the effect what I had created so far.