Two Money Blind Spots Running Your Life

Have you ever considered that your relationship with money has been learned? Quite a bit of that learning occurred by age seven, and then has just been reinforced over and over ever since.

If your experience taught you, for example, that money is easily made and multiplied, then you are likely to be living with ease in your finances today. If your experience taught you that there is never enough money to make ends meet, then you probably struggle financially today to just get by.

A great place to start identifying the subconscious programs that are having a very real impact on your financial experience as an adult is to look at the early messages modeled for you. This is not about blame, but simply acknowledging the statements and actions that your incredible brain recorded and stored as “truth” and “reality.” These are the money stories you inherited.  And they can go undetected unless you intentionally go looking for them.

Today I’d like to explore two blind spots that may be running undistinguished in your own life. Notice how these are playing out for you right now.

This is spoken in so many ways, but it shows up most often in “We can’t afford that.” A favorite around my house growing up was, “Money is tighter than bark to a tree!” “Money is limited” is running in the background when there is a general sense of lack, there is never enough and it’s either this or that, never both. Getting ahead never lasts long and barely getting by is the norm. Money is a constant struggle.

What if money is unlimited? Would you consider that money is energy, like the sun, and as such there is more than enough for everyone, including you? What if the only thing blocking the flow of this in your own life is your old program that money is scarce?

I need money! We have created a world system that runs on money, and so it occurs to us that we need “enough” money in order to be okay. Some people even attach happiness, love, peace and security to a certain amount of money. Only it never works. Whatever financial success is attained, the wellbeing is still left wanting. This program is running in your background if you ever think, “Oh, if I just have THAT amount of money, then I’ll be okay.” And the chase continues.

Consider that there has never been a time you weren’t okay. You are already okay.  When you stop looking to money to make you okay, you will see that money is simply a vehicle.  And vehicles need drivers. You don’t need money, but money needs you!  It needs you to direct and guide it and tell it where to go.  Every time you chase money, it will flee. Have you noticed?  But when you shift out of being a money chaser, you can operate as a money commander instead.

How much of your current financial experience is reflecting what was modeled for you way back when? You may even be in a very different financial position now, but if money was a struggle growing up, there is probably still struggle and strain for you with money today…even if you have more of it. It’s not about the money. It’s never about the money. It’s always about who you are being with the money.

Are you willing to get present to your inherited stories of money and notice the impact they are having on your life? How much longer will you let those old stories run you? Do you really want a seven year old kid calling the shots in your life today? You can create a new experience starting now. Get clear on what you really want and who you need to be. Who do you choose to be with money?

 

Blind Spots is an ongoing conversation.  Check out previous posts here.

Be Great!

Becky