Are you arguing with today’s title? Good! A year ago I would have. So I get that you may not agree with this position. That’s fine.
Just forget the title for now. I’ve got a question for you. What is something in your life that you are complaining about AND not doing anything to actually change? This is going to be something about yourself or someone else that you see as wrong or broken in one way or another. It could be your relationship, lack of relationship, health, weight, job, addiction, organization skills, discipline, family, debt, business partner or colleagues. Have it in mind? Okay, now let me tell you a very interesting story.
…even when the behavior is creating all sorts of obvious problems for us, it is still a solution for something—or many things.
Human beings don’t continue with behaviors that don’t have a payoff, even if the payoff is hidden.
Human beings don’t continue with behaviors that don’t have a payoff, even if the payoff is hidden. Another way to say that is we are always able to give up behaviors that no longer serve us. So if the behavior persists (think struggle), then there is a payoff at work. And it is working perfectly. Always.
The most powerful story, however, was that there was something wrong with her weight that needed to be fixed.
What do you notice about your life from the possibility that this “wrong, distressing, bad, unfair, hopeless, frustrating” situation is perfectly serving you right now? How is it operating in your life? And after you notice whatever you notice about that, you may feel compelled to fix it. That’s where we will continue this very conversation next week in that There Is Nothing To Fix.