Your Trump Card In Life (Part 1/2)

Growing up in Bad Axe, family holidays and birthdays usually included a rousing game of Rook. I remember the card tables and folding chairs being brought out for hours of family fun; sometimes there were 3 or 4 games going at once. At least that’s how I remember it.

While I haven’t played in years, I remember the trump card well. It was the coveted bird that beat out all other cards, no matter what. I remember hoping and praying for that card with each hand, because the possessor of the bird would almost always win the game.  Oh the power!

There is actually a trump card in life. And it is located in a very specific domain. Accessing this domain connects us to our source of power to effectively function in all other domains. But problems arise when we get our domains confused, and we’re left trying to access power within domains where power just doesn’t exist. However, getting back to our trump card is actually simple when we know where it’s located. In a way, it’s like stacking the deck.

The domains available to operate in are Being Doing and Having. Today, we’re looking at what we experience when we confuse who we are with what we have or don’t have. Often when we speak of our circumstances (what we have), we declare that that’s who we are. We identify with our having, rather than seeing it as distinct and separate from our being. See, we don’t live as though we have a story, we live as though we are our story. Take a look at these examples when describing our situations or roles in life:

• I am a lawyer vs. I have a law career
• I am unemployed vs. I don’t have a job
• I am a wife and mom vs I have a spouse and children
• I am sick vs. I have an illness
• I am afraid vs. I have fear
• I am financially wealthy vs. I have money
• I am healthy vs. I have a healthy body
• I am insecure vs. I have insecure thoughts
• I am a homeowner vs. I have a home
• I am a businessman/woman vs. I have a business

I submit that what exist in the domain of being are spirit, word and possibility; it is the realm of the eternal, the unseen and declared. What exist in the domain of having are circumstances, situations and results; it is the realm of the temporal, the seen and described. One is not better than the other, just realize that power is available in who we are and not available in what we have. What we have has no authority or impact on who we are…unless we give it authority in our speaking, unless we say so. But who we are will always endure beyond what we have and will actually create and/or destroy what we have. That’s powerful.

So what is the trump card exactly? Come back next week because we are only halfway there. We have a little more ground to cover first. Pay attention this week to all the ways you may be seeing who you are through the filter of what you have or don’t have.  Just notice it.  It will enrich our next conversation.

Be Great!

Becky